Finding Balance: Interview with Miranda M.
Miranda M, Stay-at-Home Mom of 5 (4 of which are under the age of 5) , 27
Starting weight 258-218lbs in 12 weeks. 40lbs lost
Just over 5 months ago I received an application for my fall What It Takes challenge from a beautiful young mother of 5.
“I’m done. I’m done being tired. I’m done putting myself last. I want to be healthy and be able to enjoy activities with my children. They deserve more, I deserve more. But I need help. I need the guidance and training to get my life back. I want to be chosen for the next what it takes challenge because I know I have what it takes. I want to establish a healthy lifestyle in my family and it will start with me. I’m always so good with making sure
my kids and husband are getting what they need. Now I need to do it for myself.
I’m ready to become me.”
Fast forward to present, not only is she 40lbs lighter after doing the 12 week challenge but her mindset has COMPLETELY changed and she is now making herself a priority.
Miranda told me that as she re-read that, she remembers the desperation and the sadness that she felt as she wrote it. She felt so lost behind everything that she’s been through and then having such a busy household, she needed to do something for herself. She didn’t want to look back 10 years from now resenting the life she lived.
“It makes me smile knowing that I am not that person now. Knowing that I am stronger. I keep saying I have a long way to go, but before I know it I’ll be there. So I’m loving this journey and where it’s taking me. I’m not JUST a wife or JUST a mom anymore. I’m
Miranda. I’m me.”
I recently interviewed Miranda on her journey and I encourage you to read and share her story. So many of us as mothers put ourselves last and lose ourselves, become angry, depressed, sad and resentful. Read on
During the challenge, how did you manage to fit in eating healthy and training with everything that you do. You have 5 kids that you look after, that in itself is a full time, or even more of a job.
Since having children, my life has been about structure. It’s much easier for me (so I keep my sanity) to have set meal times, nap times, etc. Doing this challenge was no different than everyday life, except I actually had to include myself. So I guess it was a lot different! I just simply had to make the time for myself to do something for me. Instead of hanging out on the couch, I worked out. Before doing this challenge, I was constantly tired and had no energy to do anything outside of just taking everyday and trying to keep up with my family. The funny part was that once I changed my eating and starting working out that sluggish feeling was gone. So I found my excuse of I’m too tired to do anything didn’t work for me anymore because I knew damn well that if I got my ass off that couch I wasn’t going to regret it.
What was the hardest part about the challenge?
Focusing on the moment, if that makes sense? It’s easy to always look ahead to your end goal and want to be there now. So throughout the challenge I would constantly have to remind myself that I didn’t get like this over night, it would take time. And more important than reaching my end goal was to make sure I knew what got me here and learn things about my health and body a long the way.
What was the easiest part about the challenge?
The food. It was simple to plan and prep for. And then once we got the eatFIT eRecipe Book things got even easier.
What was the one most important thing you learned from the challenge?
I’m worth it, all of it. The sweat, the tears, the frustration, it’s all worth going through to become healthier and feel better about myself.
What was your eating habits like before the challenge
Hmm… think of like your worst day of binge eating and multiply that by 10. I literally used to eat myself in a coma during the day while my husband was at work. I was constantly eating, didn’t matter what it was. I just ate all the time. Carbs, candy, pop, you name it. It’s quite disgusting looking back at it.
What was your training like before the challenge?
I didn’t do anything.
What is your favorite clean eating meal that you go to now?
I love my oats and protein powder. I can eat them at any point or multiple times through out the day. It’s simple and not very creative, but I love it.
Have you tried other diets in the past? What worked, what didnt work, why do you think they didnt work
I think I’m like 90% of the population and have tried every single diet out there. They never worked because there was no inside work done. Yes I ate differently, like I was supposed to, but I never got to the root of the problem and stopped making excuses for my behavior.
Were others inspired by what you were doing? Anyone else change their ways after seeing what you were doing?
I know there were, but most importantly, my husband did! About 4 weeks into the challenge, he decided he couldn’t just sit back and watch so he started as well.
Committing to this lifestyle when you are a mom and are so busy takes a lot of willpower especially after being so tired from the day. What advice do you have for others in regards to this?
You just need to make yourself a priority. I can honestly say that making myself a priority did not in any way negatively effect my children but actually it helped me be a better mom. I made time for myself to eat proper and work out, so in turn I had energy to really play with them. Trust me you’re still tired after working out after a long day of work, but it’s the best kind of tired there is.
For all the stay at home moms, what advice do you have to them even if they cannot get out of the house?
I live 35 minutes out of town. I have 5 children between the ages of 1 ½ and 5. I have very limited time to go to a gym, let alone afford to go a gym. I did everything at home. When I first started this challenge the resistance that I was getting from my own body was more than enough, I didn’t need any equipment. I’ve slowly begun adding equipment to my little home gym now.
What have you learned from all of this from a mental stand point?
The change starts on the inside. Don’t get me wrong, the physical is great too, but I honestly believe that you need to work through whatever is it that has gotten you to this point in your life to see lasting change on the outside. When you’ve had enough of whatever it is that is making you so unhappy that you don’t want to go back, you realize you need to make changes on the inside first.
During the challenge you had some slip ups (it can happen to the best of us), how did that impact you mentally in the challenge?
I went through this cycle… First, I felt guilty that I had let people down, because I knew they were watching. Secondly, I felt the urge to punish myself by bingeing on food. And third, I withdrew myself. I’ve worked through the first two, but the third is still a work in progress. I just had to keep telling myself to take it a day at a time. Just because I wasn’t completely on point that day didn’t mean I couldn’t start fresh the next morning. It also didn’t mean that I needed to continue on sabotaging myself the rest of that day either.
What would you say to others that are interested in joining the challenge?
Do it! I’ve found this challenge to be the most educating and helpful 12 weeks for my health, ever. Period. Not only do you get 24/7 support from a group of other amazing people, but you get Nadine and she really cares about you as a person.
What was the one biggest thing that you learned about yourself in this challenge?
I’m actually a lot stronger than I thought I was and I actually enjoy eating healthy and working out.
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